Relations. When we were single, we talked about them, fantasized about them and couldn’t wait to be in one. But… did you get into the relationship for the right reasons? Did you get into the relationship because you were really ready for one or were you just bored? You were alone? Or were you just in love with the idea to be in a relationship? Sometimes we can feel like we want a relationship when we see our girlfriends getting married and we feel left out. Society has somehow made 30 the magic age for a woman to get married. Do you remember fairy tales? At 30, you should be married with your 2 kids, a dog, and your house with the white picket fence. So if you hit your 30s or 30s and you’re still single, what happens to you? That is what society makes you question. There must be something wrong with you because you haven’t settled down yet, so you start to question your worth. I say to hell with that! You are not defined, your value is not defined by the state of your relationship. I see people in relationships who don’t need to be in them. They’re just roommates. They are simply following the movements. It is a one-sided relationship. I know the importance of being equally yoked with someone who has been engaged before. That’s why I refuse to settle. If you are in a relationship, you should be happy. The two must bring out the best in each other. Both of you must genuinely like and love each other. No relationship is perfect, of course. You will have your ups and downs, but overall, it’s love. There’s love. And people can feel that when they’re around you. Of course, we know that some people play it; they put on a show in front of people and behind closed doors they despise each other. But why? Why are you in a loveless relationship? Why are you in a situation where you clearly feel unhappy and/or question the other person’s love for you? Where is your self-esteem? I write for women, but the principles almost always apply to men as well. So there will never be intentional male attacks, just my point of view. I believe in love. I believe that we are all worthy and deserving of love. We all want to love and be loved. However, a relationship must to give to us, do not remove us. There must be value in joining. Here are some signs that you may need to consider whether or not you are in a healthy relationship:

Illness. If you are constantly stressed and getting sick, this could be a sign that you are not in the right relationship. Les Brown, a world-renowned motivational speaker, talked about something called relational illness in the movie ‘Beyond the Secret’. There are some people who can make you sick. It may sound crazy, but think about it. If you’re a vibrant, optimistic person, for example, and you strike up a relationship with a pessimistic curmudgeon, there’s a high chance you’ll become like them. You will go from being a high energy person to being a low energy pessimist. Why? Because we are the ones who walk around. We feed on each other’s energy. So if you are not in the right relationship, your health could suffer. All the emotional and mental stress can take its toll on you.

Goals/Vision. Are you both aligned with each other’s visions of life? Do you want to live the same kind of lifestyle? Do you both like growth or is one person just comfortable and not open to change? It is important that you are in a relationship with someone who is on the same wavelength as you. A person who is a fitness guru, for example, and a person who is a complete couch potato may have a hard time being together. We have to be honest with ourselves. Sharing the same values ​​is crucial. You have to be aligned with what is most important in everyone’s life. It’s kind of like the non-negotiable list (which should be based on values, not superficial): there are certain things that are non-negotiable for you to consider being in a relationship. If you haven’t made a list like that, your deciding factors essentially, I suggest you do. I would say make a top 5 but the top 10 more; Values ​​that you absolutely need in a relationship. Otherwise, it probably won’t work. (Needs, not wants. Ex: 6’4 for men and 5’6 for women – that’s a want. Being faithful and feeling loved is a need).

happiness. You feel happy? Are you happy to come home? Do you really like the person you’re with? Or did you just pick the first person who showed you some attention? Are you hanging out with them because at least you have someone? Be honest with yourself. We all deserve true love. I think we can have the love we want if, for example, we don’t conform so much. We have to look within ourselves and do some self-reflection. That will help us uncover some hidden beliefs we may have about love and what we think we are worthy of and what we are worth. Also, possible self-esteem issues that we may need to work on. Love is easy. I even heard Steve Harvey say that once. Love itself is easy. In the right relationship, you feel happy. You feel the love. You don’t have to question it. It flows naturally. It feels good. It feels good. It is NOT one-sided. You don’t feel like you’re settling in. And surely you wouldn’t be thinking about another person if you were really happy and in love.

Love yourself enough to walk away if it no longer makes you grow or make you happy. If it doesn’t honor you, why do you choose to stay? Work on you Increase your self-esteem. Take some time to rediscover who you are and what you want from life. You deserve love and you are worthy of love, but it must be right and it must be healthy. So don’t settle for less.