Do you want your ex back? Maybe you just went through a difficult breakup that just doesn’t feel right to you. Maybe you’re feeling a bit depressed, or even depressed, and right now your thoughts are racing with ideas on how you can get your ex back. For some, the idea may seem hopeless, but the good news is that there is always hope and possibility to win them back.

People get back together every day. I bet you even know a couple or two who broke up and got back together. No matter how desperate you feel about your situation, know that there are ways you can get back together regardless of the circumstances behind your current separation.

However, there are some ground rules that you need to understand in order to have a real chance of success. The most important of these is highly counterintuitive – cut off contact and resist the urge to call or email or text your ex for at least a couple of days. I understand that this may seem almost impossible to do, but give it a try and you are taking a very important step in regaining control of the relationship and putting pressure on your ex to start thinking of you positively again.

The reconciliation process can be difficult to go through, but it is absolutely possible to make up for quiet nights at home or great trips to the park together. At this point, however, you should do your best to start having a little distance between you for at least a few days. Give it a try, and your ex will likely call to sign up and talk things over again. Instinct and human naturalness take over, and then the ball is back in your court.