If you are the type of person who likes to take control of their lives, then learning to hypnotize someone without them knowing it could help you get what you want. It’s about making the most of life, getting the partner we want, the lifestyle we deserve, making the most of all our opportunities not only for ourselves, but also for our families.

Many of you are probably thinking that everything is fine, but is hypnotizing someone a reality or just a fantasy from a comic book?

Let’s get something clear right away. Hypnosis is a clinically proven methodology used by thousands of qualified professionals around the world. It is used for everything from helping people overcome drug addiction to enabling operations without the need for anesthesia. Don’t get your hopes up, hypnosis is a really powerful technique.

However, you can’t just stand in front of someone saying “look me in the eye, you’re feeling sleepy”, well you could, but they will almost certainly look at you like you’re an idiot. Fortunately, at the same time, learning to hypnotize someone without them knowing is not rocket science either.

I’ll tell you a little secret. In fact, we all experience a hypnotic trance almost every day, it’s just that we don’t know it and we don’t know how to harness it on others. More of that later

Let’s say you see the girl of your dreams or you are about to go to the most important business meeting of your life. How great would it be if you could approach that beautiful girl or enter that meeting with determination knowing that you are in control, able to make them think what you say without them knowing?

Now if you’re in a bar or interview and can’t hope to be able to get away with a clock hanging in front of someone’s face or ask them to think of a good childhood memory, they will definitely notice and probably think that you are. A Little bit weird. You need a technique that is much more subtle than that, but powerful enough to allow you to control your thoughts.

Conversational hypnosis is the hypnotic method you need if you really want to know how to hypnotize someone without them knowing. It is like any other skill. You need to know what you are doing and practice regularly to master your technique. Fortunately, there are some great courses that can help you do just that.

However, there are also some basic principles that will not only help you get the most out of any situation, but will also support much of conversational hypnosis.

1. Listen and observe.

Listen, I mean really listen. Don’t let what they’re saying slip through your head somewhere as you think about what to say. Gather the information they are disclosing. Remember that it’s not just their verbal communication that tells you about them, it’s their gestures and body language, their eye contact, or the lack of it. A good conversational hypnotist will be able to read these signs like a book that tells you exactly what you want to know. But, with a little practice, you will be surprised how much you can naturally learn about one person just by listening and carefully observing what the other person is saying.

2. Generate a report.

While listening, you don’t have to be just passive. You can use what you hear and all of your observations to start building a relationship with the person. Simply put, they will be much more likely to do what you ask if they like you. Once again, conversational hypnosis teaches you to use techniques like “mirroring” and “empathic response” to build this relationship incredibly quickly and effectively. However, even at a very basic level, if you show someone that you have listed them simply by repeating part of what they said or saying that you understand how they feel, they will think better of you.

3. Put them in a trance.

What? There I was being perfectly sensitive and now you probably think I am missing two cans of a six pack and am going to ramble about waving clocks or shooting memory beams out of my eyes. Don’t worry, nothing could be further from the truth.

Trance is a state of mind that we enter every day. All it means is that our conscious mind is fully involved in the present leaving our subconscious mind unprotected. Have you ever become so focused on something that someone can stand next to you and say something to you and you literally don’t listen? It’s that strange feeling when you are vaguely aware that someone is there and that they are talking, but you are so busy with what you are doing, whatever it is, that you cannot or cannot respond.

Guess what you are in trance. Have you ever been reading something and then had to apologize to someone because you didn’t respond when they spoke to you? You guessed it, you’re in a trance. In fact, a trance state is something that we go in and out of many times every day. The conversational hypnotist not only knows this, but is capable of “inducing” himself into others. There are many different ways to do this type of “induction”, but you can start doing it simply by mirroring a person’s conversation when you speak to them.

Use their vocabulary and scatter some of their own sentences in your answers. Your goal is obviously not to copy them, but to show them that you have really been listening to them. Get it right and they won’t even realize what you’re doing, but unconsciously you will receive a very high score for being a person who shares their beliefs and experiences. You will attract their attention to your conversation. Just like when you are reading a good book, your conscious mind will be completely focused on your every word. They will be in a trance.

4. Make the suggestions you want them to create.

With a working knowledge of conversational hypnosis, you can easily tell when they are in a trance, you can test your subconscious response, and “calibrate” your conversation to get them exactly where you want them. However, even if you are not an expert, if someone seems to be completely focused on you and what you are saying, you have a good chance of making your suggestions stick. Again, there are many tips and phrases you can use to ensure success, but in general, if you make creative and positive suggestions, they have a good chance of having a great effect on the person you are talking to.

Beginning the suggestion phrase with something like “imagine how brilliant it would be …” or “it wouldn’t be great if …” This will give you a better chance of success. So if the girl seems paralyzed with what you say suggesting “wouldn’t it be great if meeting someone like that was the start of something amazing?” it could be very good for you. Similarly, at that business meeting you might say something like “Wouldn’t you love it if you doubled your profit on my product in less than a year?”

However, the real beauty of conversational hypnosis is that, if done right, the suggestions you make are for the person’s subconscious. You absorb them without realizing it, and therefore they adopt your suggestions as their own thoughts.