For many people, when their marriage reaches a crisis point, one of the first things they do is seek the services of a marriage counselor. This can and often does work, but both parties must want to get their marriage back on track. However, what if your partner has almost given up on your marriage? Is there a way that one of the parties can try to fix their marriage even if their spouse is not interested? If your dilemma is “How to save my marriage alone”, read on. You would be surprised.

First of all let me tell you that it is possible to save your marriage even if you are the only one who wants it by following proven methods that work. If your lines of communication are still open, it is very important to keep them that way.

First of all, you must accept your part in the breakdown of the marriage, even if you think it is not your fault. It takes two to make a marriage, but it also takes two to break a marriage. Therefore, tell your partner that you would like to apologize for her part in the failure of your marriage. Then tell them that you need to know how they feel about you. Tell them to be open and honest and that you won’t interrupt or get angry, but that you need to know to make things right.

The next step is to act on the things your partner has told you. Once your partner sees that you are listening to them and actually considering their feelings and trying to change, you will regain their respect and trust.

If, on the other hand, communication has completely broken down, there are still things you can do to restore your marriage. Obviously it is not possible to interact with your partner, so you need to start looking at yourself and thinking about yourself (not selfishly but reflectively), think about what you can do to try to become a better partner and start putting these actions into your place. If you can start “cleaning up your side of the street”, then your partner will realize that you are trying to change for the better, and this could have a positive effect on them.

Another thing you can do to try to save a marriage alone is to really listen to your partner and respect what they have to say, even if they want space away from you. When people ask for time off, it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. It can and often does have a positive effect. Agree on a time scale to meet, say a month, and very importantly, don’t contact them between this point, as this will only drive them further away from you. In the meantime, come up with a game plan and start putting things into action. it will alter the course of your marriage for the better. When your partner comes back, tell them that you really want to try again, and here’s what you’re going to do to make it happen. If your partner agrees to this, make the necessary changes. If after all this they still decide it’s not okay, then you have to let them go, as hard as it may seem, since you’ve done all you can do.