If you’re wondering what monks might have to do with dating a Japanese woman, let me tell you a little story!
Two Japanese monks are on a pilgrimage. In a village, they meet a seventeen-year-old girl wearing a long kimono. She is trying to cross a very muddy road but she can’t bring herself to step on the mud.
Then one of the monks picks her up and carries her down the path, frees her from the mud and leaves her.
And so the monks walk in silence for another four or five hours, just practicing normal silence. Then, as they get closer to her destination, one of the monks tells the other that he helped the girl:
“Oh, you know, you shouldn’t have done that because monks aren’t even supposed to touch women. So you shouldn’t have picked that girl up, you’re not supposed to do that.”
The other monk replies, “Oh, are you still pregnant with that girl? I left her hours ago.”
Do you get the point?
The first monk overcame him and finished.
The other monk still carried the girl, the event, on his head, like heavy luggage. For hours he was walking with the load.
Maybe he was secretly fantasizing or maybe he was just scared because he was suspicious of his ‘impure’ thoughts. Whatever the details of her inner talk, it was a form of suffering. And it was unnecessary.
It is the same with most Western men who want or try to date a Japanese woman. They are thinking one thing while their actions betray them.
They want to be intimate with their date or just a Japanese girl they know, but ignore their urges and true desires.
Why the hell would they do that?
It’s usually fear mixed with not knowing what to do…even if they wanted to follow their heart.
Let me ask you something. And when you look at your reactions, I want you to really think about the day-to-day reality of each instance, not just giving your thoughts to the ‘right’ answer, to what should to think.
So if you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you rather experience?
a) For months, knowing a Japanese woman, as friends. All the while, wanting to be close to her, wanting to be intimate, but not really knowing if it was appropriate to “make a move” or even how to do it, not even knowing if she was interested in you in the same way.
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b) In the space of a month, ask a Japanese woman out, get to know her enough that you both feel comfortable with each other, and then sleep with her. Not only that, but also having the option to really get to know her over the next several months and become closer and more intimate with each passing day.
If you’re being honest, it’s pretty obvious that any guy would want the second option, right?
Now, it’s not about sleeping with her and then giving her the movie. At least she doesn’t have to be. It’s about making the most of your time and hers.
If you are going to spend months getting to know someone, wouldn’t you like to break the tension soon and be able to open up, freeing yourself from unwanted burdens (in the form of doubts, worries and concerns)?
Think how much more you could discover about each other. I’m trying to end your suffering!
There is no need to play games in your head. Everything can be solved with action. And not just any action, but purposeful action when it comes to dating a Japanese woman.
Once you are clear on that purpose, your actions will begin to flow accordingly, like a bullseye on target.
