It is amazing to watch an entire generation of young autistic adolescents transitioning into adulthood. For the past twenty years, we have advocated for the acceptance and inclusion of all people, particularly those with autism and other disabilities. We have witnessed a transformation in society as attitudes have changed towards greater tolerance and support for people with autism. Opportunities are now available in education, housing, and health care that didn’t exist five years ago. Although employment figures for autistic adults continue to lag, there is optimism that things will continue in a positive direction. It is true that we have all heard of the drive to assimilate autistic adults into larger social circles and the world around us. Yet rarely do we hear how people with autism deal with the expectations of others as they seek to find their place in the world.

Success always starts on the inside and manifests itself on the outside. People with autism would do well to work on developing self-confidence and a positive self-image as they embark on a world of uncertainty. Meeting the expectations of others has been the main focal point of growing up with autism. Conformity, even when uncomfortable, was not only expected of autistic children, but also handsomely rewarded. Now, on the threshold of adulthood, these same young people seem to have no identity of their own. Despite the progress made regarding autism awareness and inclusion, there is still an element of paternalism associated with autism. The prevailing thought in many circles is that autistic people need someone to care for them and make decisions on their behalf. While this may be true for some people on the spectrum, it is clearly not the case in all situations. For many autistic adults capable of living independently, the very idea of ​​giving up their freedom of choice is considered a personal affront.

Forging an identity requires a definitive plan of action that highlights accomplishments and positive images. The media, in all formats, seems to have an obsession with “feel good” stories about autistic children, but provides minimal coverage related to autistic adults. Raising awareness is extremely important for both autistic children and adults on the spectrum. Having positive images of autistic adults in educational and work settings is valuable for all members of society to eradicate some of the limiting beliefs that persist. Additionally, we need to hear from adults on the high-functioning end of the spectrum who live productive lives and are integral parts of communities around the world. Society at large needs to know that there are professionals with autism who work as educators, scientific researchers, business executives, and accountants. Additionally, a more vocal presence of people with autism will go a long way in educating employers about the sheer amount of talent eagerly awaiting an opportunity. Finally, there needs to be more self-advocacy on the part of autistic adults to help galvanize an identity worthy of respect and dignity. The autism community is a growing and vital part of our world that has much to offer. It is up to all of us to promote greater access and opportunities to improve the lives of all citizens.