You will learn to better manage your thoughts, attitudes, approaches, and actions in response to the happy life you want rather than in response to problems and challenges. To fix your marriage and stop a divorce, you should take a week to answer each of the following questions.
What is the number 1 problem in your marriage?
This question helps you immediately differentiate between the symptoms and the root problems. You will identify the problem that causes the most pain. working to fix this problem will automatically solve the symptoms associated with it and free you from more than 50% of the problems that affect the marriage.
Why did you fall in love with your partner?
This question helps you remember who you said yes to before all the trouble. To reconnect with the bright future you saw, you need to remember the person you saw it with.
What is the purpose of your marriage?
Purpose is what anchors your marriage when expectations fail and feelings fade. The purpose of a marriage is the value it will add to society. Your marriage is as important to the world as every hospital, school, and court.
What are the problems that affect marriage?
You will classify the problems according to the subheadings below and focus your energy on tackling the first 2.
1. Questions related to Problem Number 1.
2. Problems specific to you.
3. Problems specific to your spouse.
4. Issues that affect both of you.
How does your marriage work?
In this question, describe what works well and what needs to be fixed. Divorce occurs when the perceived malfunction outweighs what works well. You need to take an honest look at both sides and not just focus on the problems you need to fix.
Who influences your marriage and what are they like?
Many marriages are ruined due to the advice of the wrong people. If your influencers are not people with strong, stable marriages, you need to rethink who you associate with.
How were the best years?
There was a formula working at some point in the marriage. Take time to remember what life was like when you were happy.
What changed?
In a marriage, things tend to go wrong when specific circumstances occur. Examining the good years can help you identify when and where things changed and what factors caused it.
How do you respond to things you can’t stand?
How we respond to situations is always more important than the situation itself. When you know how you react, you can take responsibility for your actions and choose a different approach. You never fix a marriage, what you fix is how you think and behave in marriage.
Exploring and honestly answering these questions will help you see the many dynamics in your relationship that make it great, as well as those that cause stress and pain. Next, he will focus his energy on fixing what he has the most control over. Focus less on your spouse and their problems and more on you and yours.
