How husbands disrespect their wives
Husbands who look at or flirt with other women may not think they are being disrespectful, but it is very damaging to their wives. The bible talks about this in detail about how a man should love his wife. “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
Disrespecting our wives by ogling, touching, online chatting, flirting, or looking at other women does not lead to a healthy relationship, simply because it causes resentment and jealousy between partners. Husbands who make a habit of looking at other women the wrong way are also disrespecting God’s creation and the one flesh of marriage.
If we are having a hard time keeping our eyes on our own fence, then we really need to ask Christ to help us with our temptations. If he believes he is wrong, then lower his pride and let God work in his personal life. God clearly lets us know that if we come to him in faith, he will keep us from being tempted beyond what we can bear.
“And faithful is God, he will not let you be tempted more than you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also give you a way out so that you can resist.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)
All moral sin begins with being tempted. But understand that we are tempted to have the wrong attitude about the opposite sex in the first place. Some men believe that it is okay to look at and flirt with another woman as long as they don’t have sex with her, but the fact is that it is very damaging to the spirituality of the man who does it and to his wife who sees what is going on.
When a married man (or woman) ogles and flirts, it begins to form an attitude within him that this way of behaving is okay. The truth is that carrying this attitude is what leads to adultery. Looking at other women may seem innocent enough, but one day it will go beyond looking with your eyes. What is in a man’s heart will manifest in his actions. “But I tell you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in her heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28) Christ calls it emotional adultery and that is what it is.
Both men and women are to blame for the bad behavior that occurs between them. Married women should not give any reason for another man to stare at her. I realize that even if she doesn’t give reasons, it’s possible for a man to stare at her, but that’s another matter entirely. It still takes two to be tempted and then commit adultery. If you’re not doing anything wrong, then you have nothing to worry about. The bottom line is that some women play a role in this wrong behavior by the way they dress and behave.
How wives disrespect their husbands
What do you think? Should a married woman dress to please her husband or to please her ego? Did you know that women are judged by the way they dress and behave? In an instant a man will know if he can look and flirt. His behavior is the most revealing of all. Women give the appearance of someone who wants to be flirted with and stared at or not.
Has your husband ever told you that your dress, skirt, or shirt was too revealing? Then you are a very lucky woman because this type of man is just trying to protect you from stares. Some men don’t know how to express themselves properly, so his wife may think he is trying to “control” her dress. But he’s really just trying to stop other men from looking at his wife! No real man wants other men to look at his wife’s cleavage or thighs; it is a lack of respect.
Ironically, men stare and flirt because the woman has given them the signal that it’s okay to do so: their behavior and clothing give it away! But then these same women complain and file lawsuits for sexual harassment. We do it to ourselves! We have to be careful! When a woman behaves sexually in appearance or conduct, she will attract the wrong attention. And if we don’t want that kind of attention, we need to carefully consider how we dress and appear.
We need to protect our marriage from the world! Sharing our marriage with the world is asking for trouble. When a married man looks and flirts with other women, he is disrespecting his wife, God, and the only flesh of the marriage, not to mention disrespecting himself. It is literally being shared with the world. We need to ask God to help us keep our eyes and thoughts on our own fence because this is God’s purpose for us in marriage.
And when a woman dresses to please her ego, she is doing the same thing. She is giving the wrong impression. How can you protect a marriage with all this behavior? The only way to protect our marriage is to keep the world out. This begins with the husband and wife working together for the one flesh of marriage by pleasing God with their marriage instead of pleasing themselves.
The truth is that no matter what a woman wears or how she behaves, there will always be unbelieving men, who cannot resist what does not belong to them, but at least she did not have any of that and her heart is right with God and her husband . We are God’s wonderful and beautiful creation and we don’t have to dress to please others but to please God!
