The ladder theory is based on how heterosexual men and women evaluate the opposite sex based on first impressions. The theory follows that the decision is made fairly quickly and sets the pace of the relationship as “platonic” or “romantic”.
The logic of the ladder theory follows that men are more comfortable having sex with female friends, while women make a clearer distinction between female friends and lovers. Therefore, the initial impressions will be compatible with a romantic relationship or simply create a strong separation in perception and lead to a strictly platonic friendship. This sorting and grading process is known as “ladder”.
Of course, the Ladder Theory follows a general statistical percentage for the basis each sex places on attraction during the initial encounter. Basically, this means the kind of things that each sex looks for in order to make a quick decision on whether or not to pursue a romantic relationship with the other person in question.
The points of attraction collected by the ladder theory show a marked difference between how the sexes perceive desirable/attractive traits. Men put 60% of attraction on appearance, 30% on how easily they think they can sleep with a woman, and 10% on other factors (intelligence, etc.). Women, on the other hand, place 50% of their attraction on a man’s perceived wealth or power, 40% on attraction, and 10% on other factors.
That said, there are clearly some do’s and don’ts in ladder theory. If followed, they should produce impressive results in terms of making a favorable first impression on the opposite sex. Here are some basic examples of the Ladder Theory “Do’s and Don’ts” for your benefit.
Do’s and Don’ts of Ladder Theory:
Men should not give the impression that they are only interested in how attractive or willing their female counterpart is for sex. Remember guys, women are primarily attracted to a man who can provide them with some kind of security (financial stability). This means that men should definitely talk about their selling points, like their education, achievements, and economic growth.
Women shouldn’t go out looking like they just got out of bed, or bore a man by maintaining a huge bubble of personal space. Instead, they should put a greater emphasis on his appearance and flirtation. We know this sounds silly, but it’s true. This technique becomes a means for a woman to see the true colors of a man. If she looks good and is flirting, will the man try to jump right into sex and expose her intentions, or will he maintain a consistent demeanor and commit to her, which is much more desirable?
