So you two dated, and now you’re broken up. Weeks later, it’s your ex-girlfriend’s birthday. Do you let the day go by without marking? Or is it okay to call her, just to let her know you’re thinking of her?
Calling your ex to wish him a happy birthday is always a complicated situation. A number of factors go into whether or not she should make that call, including how amicable her breakup was and how long it’s been since she broke up.
Reasons why you should call your ex girlfriend on her birthday
Simply put, you and your ex were very close. They shared holidays, vacations, friends, family and many good times. You also shared some of the most intimate moments two people can have with each other… so what’s the problem with wishing her a happy birthday?
In the end, it all comes down to one thing: do you still want your ex girlfriend back? If so, calling to say happy birthday is a legitimate way to get back into her head, and possibly her life, once again. But what if you were the one who broke up with her? Dialing her number can be tricky and probably not a good idea.
If you decide to contact your ex on her birthday, make sure you do it with a phone call. Don’t text or email as these are silly and impersonal ways to communicate after a breakup. Don’t show up face to face either, because that’s not going to work out.
What if you want to get your ex back? Sending flowers on his birthday is certainly NOT the way to go. This is the case for too much too soon, and it can easily scare your ex off before you even start down the road to win her back.
What to say to your ex when you call her
When making the call, be sure to keep the phone conversation simple, clean, and fast. Tell your ex girlfriend that you noticed the date and couldn’t help but think about her today. That’s just a sweet but innocent gesture that can’t go unnoticed by her, and chances are she’ll appreciate it. Ask her how she’s been, make a sentence or two of small talk, and then tell her you’re sorry but you really have to go. Wish her a happy birthday and go out.
Your conversation should not last more than two or three minutes, maximum. Staying on the phone any longer risks awkward pauses or your ex girlfriend suspecting that you might be trying to win her back. Right now, this is not what you want. You just need to plant the seed… to get back in her head. However, later on there will be steps you can take to get your ex girlfriend back.
Don’t sit there agonizing “should I call my ex” or “shouldn’t I?” Being confident and proactive is a big part of making your ex want you back. That being said, you can’t get back together without having some sort of plan. A step-by-step plan to win your girlfriend’s heart is always better than trying to roll the dice and hoping for the best.
