Basic tips and techniques to merge sexuality with spirituality to improve your relationship and enjoy lasting love and vitality in your life.

Tantra originated in Vedic writings in India over 3,500 years ago and the spoken practice is believed to have been passed down very selectively and secretly to highly evolved individuals for centuries before that.

Tantra in Sanskrit (one of the oldest languages ​​on the planet) means “woven together” which relates to the sacred union of masculine and feminine energies. Using the sacred union of man and woman by applying different techniques and a certain state of mind can be a great spiritual evolution.

Sacred Sexuality is definitely a gateway to enter a higher consciousness and increase connection with higher power. Its nature is to access the most powerful “life-giving” ‘god’ activity possible in a human form (which when done in a negative, abusive or unconscious or Marley way for genital gratification can harm and destroy individuals).

There are many benefits, not only does the sexual experience itself become richer and more satisfying, but the state of mindfulness achieved by exercising tantric techniques brings an ecstatic and blissful experience to the explorer. Your beloved becomes a channel for you to connect to the higher realms.

Here are some basic entry level techniques for engaging in Tantra magic:

* Decide to have tantric sex and go on a date!

Almost anything these days that you daily have a better chance of completing. When you allocate time in your busy schedule, you have no excuses for not having time and this is even more important when you have children as they demand a lot of attention. You may think that the sexual experience loses its spontaneity, but remember when you come prepared with the right mindset; you opt for a better and deeper experience.

* Stick to your date even if you don’t feel like it.

It’s like going to the gym, sometimes we don’t feel like it and if we end up going we feel really proud of ourselves and feel all the benefits of training. So don’t fall for the games your mind plays with you (especially if there are sexual blocks from trauma and abuse). Even if you feel tired, take a quick shower and do it anyway, you will be full of energy!

* Set the right mood and better yet, get him out of bed!

The bed is used for sleeping and for most couples it becomes a place of mundane sex, so make it an adventure and explore other options (best is a comfortable mattress with pillows on the floor, where you have enough space to move). your space and make it sacred with the intention of making it sacred in mind. Clean it of clutter, play soft and pleasant tantric music, light candles and incense, place fresh flowers and anything else that warms your heart and makes you feel good and special (stones, special images, natural musical instruments, nice pillows, etc.)

* Start with some movement and breathing exercise.

Movement is great as it makes your body generate energy, release stress and also calms the mind; it helps to take you into space and ground you more deeply in the experience.

It is best to tremble, as this actually makes your kundalini move (Kundalini is the powerful creative sexual energy coiled like a sleeping serpent near the base of the spine. One of the goals of Tantra is to gently awaken this dormant energy to awaken consciousness and achieve enlightenment).

This is how to do the shake: stand facing each other with your legs apart and feet flat on the floor, slightly bend your knees and start shaking from the abdomen (you can keep your eyes closed)

At first you have to do the movement and almost force it into the body, but after a while, you start to relax and let the movement happen to you and you just tune in and watch it. Let the body do what it needs to do without interfering or judging it.

You can use fast-paced music in the background. Do it for at least 20 minutes.

It is nice to move on to dance after the agitation stage, as it distributes the energy throughout the body and creates many vital vibrations.

After dancing, they can sit cross-legged facing each other where their knees lightly touch, they can hold hands and look into each other’s eyes.

This simple exercise has a very profound effect, since the eyes are the window to the soul.

Just looking at each other without speaking and without judging form a very special channel of communication. You drop all your layers and boundaries of protection, allowing you to be vulnerable in the eyes of your beloved. Do it for at least 10 minutes.

Next stage: the woman sits on the man with the front of her body against the front of him (this is a very old tantric position called Yab Yun)

This position allows both of you to sit up straight with your back straight and facing each other (it’s also a very good position for intercourse).

Now you can do circular breathing, where you breathe into his mouth and fill him with air and then he breathes into your mouth and vice versa, it’s a very powerful connector that will synchronize your breathing and heart rate and bring you to the now and ready to explore more.

From there, they can start kissing and continue to love each other.

Remember these little tips:

It is very good to enjoy each other taking turns to caress each other, massage each other with good oils, enjoy the moment and not rush into penetration.

Also, don’t rush yourself into an orgasm and if you feel like you are climaxing too quickly, stop breathing and keep pampering yourself, you can continue penetration when you calm down a bit.

Get used to enjoying the process and don’t make orgasm your final goal.

Slow down from the fast pace of life we ​​live and fully emerge into the moment. Enjoy!